Kelso's Choices ProgramConflict or disagreement is normal and often happens when children get together. However, hurtful words, gestures, or physical attack are unacceptable ways to deal with conflict and disagreement at school. Our goal is to teach students several positive ways to deal with these difficult situations using an adorable frog puppet named Kelso. To do this, we ask students who have "small problems" to try at least two of "Kelso's Choices:"
This process can be done before asking for adult help. When a request for adult help is made, it will include the two ideas tried; for example: "Mrs. Jones, Ted is teasing me about my glasses. I tried ignoring him, and I've told him it hurts my feelings when he makes fun of me. He's still calling me names." The adult at school will then get involved and help solve the problem using our school discipline plan. Of course, the adult will immediately handle any serious conflicts that cause a child to feel threatened or frightened. The students are taught that these are "big problems," and they should tell an adult if any student is in danger or being bullied. By using this plan, we believe that our students will develop effective problem-solving skills that they can use again and again. It will help them to deal with conflict in a positive manner and to make appropriate decisions. Knowing what to do will help students reduce the stress and the number of conflicts they have at school and in their neighborhood. This program has been in use at Trantwood for several years, and is very engaging to our students. Colorful charts illustrating Kelso's Choices are displayed in each classroom and common area so that the students remember to use them. We encourage you to become familiar with this program and use it in your home. By working together, we can develop a healthy life skill for young people to use at home and at school. |